What are you making so significant in your life today that it is creating your stress and concern, taking your time and attention?
I’m in a bit of a transitional shift after a hurricane disrupted my reality. It came through with a preliminary force and asked us all to wake up and choose something. Stay, go, board up, prepare, reach out, help out and a whole plethora of other things.
This called me to reach for something a bit different than I had been. It called me to reflect on my time and attention, my priorities and significances and ask myself, if this were truly a moment of devastation and destruction, where would I want to be, what would I want to be doing and is anything in my current reality as significant as I make it out to be.
The storm has since past. Through it and as I sit witness and listen to others, I find myself in my dad’s awareness asking a question that for years made me cry. Will it matter 100 years from now.
I was a sensitive and emotional kid.
I cried -a- lot about e-v-e-r-ything.
The tiniest things were so significant and it seemed the more I cried or valued something, the more my dad would make light of it.
I took this to mean he didn’t care about me, he didn’t get it or understand the meaning behind why it was so important. I took his every response and reaction to mean something about me. That I was wrong, not good enough.
It’s interesting, our relationship today is very different and I am reminded of those times with an appreciation of how that shaped me.
Back then, he seemed like the meanest person in the world and the things he said, well, they felt like the most unkind words he could say.
Now, they are actually some of the kindest words, granting a perspective, that continues to gift me a freedom I often take for granted, a freedom I find others don’t have.
People often comment in some form about the way I live life, sometimes in awe of my sense of freedom, other times in judgment of my lack of attachment and one of the biggest statements made is, “well it’s easy for you to say, but my life……”
Not to make light of that statement and to make light of that statement. This journey of mine hasn’t always been easy, hasn’t always been a walk in the park; cool, calm and confident. Honestly, most days I am completely unsure of what is next while being completely confident that what ever shows up will only be as significant as I make it out to be. That doesn’t mean it’s easy for me to say and yet, it’s ease in a way to live. Easy and ease are not the same thing, and I will leave that conversation for another day.
“Significance is actually the creation of difficulty, when we allow ourselves to let go, we can breath into a calm that breeds a comfort that restriction suffocates.” Michelle Lyall
He, my dad, used to say to me often, “sweetheart, will it matter 100 years from now” and I would immediately get so upset thinking, I don’t know dad, but it matters right this minute.
Guess what, I don’t even know what it was that was so important at the time. What I do know is, THAT was one of the greatest questions he ever asked me.
I didn’t get it then, I didn’t get it in my twenties, or my thirties, heck just yesterday I made something significant, while I don’t remember what that was, I do remember that it’s only as significant as the moment and the minute I ask myself, will it matter 100 years from now, I can breath and go about my day putting my time and energy into something that will create a difference one hundred years from now.
What is that?
That thing that creates a difference 100 years from now?
Would you like to join me in finding out?
Start by asking yourself the question and acknowledging all the places along your journey where something was significant that isn’t even in your reality today.
Question and acknowledgment are some the greatest contributors to opening your mind, the possibilities in front of you and all the patterns by which you function in life, if you truly desire to shift something, start with those two and see what show up, then you create choice.